There tends to be two types of people out there with two completely separate perspectives and beliefs on the way to live.
Group A – Live to Work.
Group B – Work to Live.
Both of the above groups have valid rationale. Both have their share of positive and negative repercussions. The person with the big house and fancy car will often never feel complete. No number of cars, properties or amount of cash in the bank will ever be enough. They find it uncomfortable to relax. They prefer to be working long hours than spending time enjoying the fruits of their labour.
On the contrary, you have those who work to live. Some people say these people are LAZY. That they lack ambition and drive. That they lack the foresight to plan for the future. All because they seem to enjoy themselves… What does that mean… If they are having that much fun they need a reality check… They are being ignorant to the challenges of life??
Is it because they prioritise spending time doing things they enjoy and spending time with friends. Maybe they go to shows, see live music, spend weekends chatting with friends till the early hours.. The is an issue with this also, people can go too far one way and not have any money if things go wrong or challenges arise. They don’t seem to have that back up or any saving to get them out of trouble.
The title of this article is called Halfway House, this looks at how YOU can find the perfect place in-between Working to Live and Living to Work.
If you have a fancy house and an old beaten up car from the 1970s I will never judge you. The reason I will never judge you is because it is not up to me to decide what your status is and what you should and should not have. It you are happy and content with what you have – that is all that matters.
Where did all this begin??
In the UK is has been common practice for kids in school to be pigeon holed from a young age as belonging to one of the following 3 groups.
What classifies you into each of the above categories is where you live and how much money you make. You can see how this sort of stigma can result in people striving to build up the material bank account.
Nobody enjoys being judged or categorised in a negative way. This issue is that this can develop a mindset of comparison. Attempting to match the lifestyle of those around you and never feel content with your position in life. You never spend a cent due to the fear of losing everything. The only thing you can do to mask the fear is to work 24/7. That way if something was to go wrong – you were doing everything you can. Right?
What are the consequences of not living or enjoying life?
You turn down social get togethers because you a re too busy to have.
You break off friendships as they are too time consuming.
You lose your relationships as that plant gets no water.
It is easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when you are always on the go. It is always important to take time for SELF REFLECTION to assess what is working and what is not.
How many eggs are you putting into the baskets which are supposed to be most important to you?
You can only avoid addressing things for so long. If you avoid making decisions they will eventually be made for you. You will end up confused, lost and most likely alone.
Don’t let work be your only identity. Your better than that.
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